Yesterday I heard a sermon which suggested that men are responsible for the spiritual life of their family and church. This morning I read an article with some practical ways to do that. 11 Practical Ways for Men to Lead a Family.
When the Spirit nudges me twice in 24 hours on the same subject, I try to pay attention. Look around guys. The sad truth is that women are running our families and our churches. Sure most of our churches have male pastors, but women are still in charge. They are in charge, not because they have a title, but because they do most of the work. Look around on Sunday morning and see who is doing what. The women are probably doing most everything other than ushering. Guess what. I can find my own seat. I sit in the same place every week.
Most of our homes are the same way. I would like to believe this is a vast feminine conspiracy, but I suspect this has happened because women have stepped up to fill roles that we men have failed to fill. It’s time we do something about this. But let me warn you. It won’t be easy. I think the women like being in charge. Watch any TV sitcom. The women are running things and the men are looking foolish. That’s going to be a tough status quo to change.
How can we do it.
1. Preach by example. It will do no good to announce, “I am now the spiritual leader.” You will sound like an alien. Start with your mouth shut. Just start acting like a leader, model humility, honesty, repentance, service, study, and worship.
2. Count the bibles in your home. Dust them off and start reading one in the presence of your family. Make sure everyone has his or her own copy so he or she can do the same.
3. Make sure there are good bible study aids available. If you live on your smart phone make sure you have some of the great bible study apps that are available. Make sure you use them in the presence of your family.
4. Make appropriate choices for television and movies. Don’t just suggest such choices for others. Watch with your family.
5. Eat meals together. Don’t just say grace but use the time to pray for real needs and keep track of how God responds for those needs.
6. Pray with and for each member of your family each day. Touch them when you do this. If this is very out of character for you, try a simple touch of the hand and say, “I’m praying for you.” Perhaps ask what they need prayer for.
You see being the spiritual leader means leading by example. It’s not about control or a title. It’s about being and doing.
Try it and be blessed.